What This Dominant Woman Wants

What do dominant women want?I’ve heard this question a lot, from time to time and either the answers are not to the point or they are a little to personal for comfort. I "play" with K and noticed that he did some things very right from the start. Many of my partners have made the basic needs met and were willing to learn more in the way of for lack of a better word protocol.
Each Dominant has what is important to her the needs she needs met by her submissive although the basics of respect as well as obedience are there some of us require a few more perks as it were.

So what do dominant women want? Trying not to be vague and make my thoughts clear, I am going to attempt to give my point of view remember, It's my point of view not necessarily related to truth justice or the American way.

Being my opinion I doubt if I will hit all the wants and desires of dominant woman everywhere. That would be impossible for the simple reason woman are as different as snowflakes and what would please one would probably displease another. I am not using scientific research just an opinion that I have talked over with friends both vanilla as well as kinky to get an idea of what they consistently agree are what most want. It is only a beginning.

The small stuff does matter:
The simple things that any woman expects. Personal touch to interactions like referring to me in the preferred address such as Ma'am instead of Mistress, or that I like my butt rubbed instead of my back for soothing. I like water on the bedside table when I lay down for the night, or when serving a meal he dresses in an apron and his collar is in place. It says to me that I am learning you and want to please you in particular not just anyone. it adds that personal touch.

He makes it clear how important I am to him:
He makes time for me in his schedule to write me emails, gives me a call saying I was thinking of you when we can't be together, purchasing something he knows I would like. We aren't talking something expensive a bouquet of flowers, a stuff animal because I collect them something that says I was thinking of you and I would like you to think of me.

He makes me feel wanted:
His actions and his words convey this sentiment, yet he doesn't expect that he can demand my time, attention, desire, or body because he does.

He wants to be with me:
He is polite with thank you and please. He states what he can and can not do clearly and honestly. If he can't leave work early he states so and gives me a time he is available. Or I have a doctors appointment tomorrow so flogging my balls is not possible today. He lets me know when he has reached his limit by using his safe word or asking for mercy.

He knows reality and fantasy has its place:
He works, has hobbies things that are important to him. He is human with a life outside of the one that we create together. He is a complete person and kink is not the only thing we have in common. He is my friend as well as my partner and are equals when not in session. We talk, grab a meal, enjoy a show together We may even acquire friends in common at some point in our association.

He serves me:
In whatever capacity I choose whether it's running errands, writing a blog and getting it in on time, cleaning the house, moving furniture, going shopping with me and being a bag carrier, or purchasing groceries for the evening meal. He does them to the best of his ability. He doesn't use this as a way to screw up to be chastised nor does he use it for a way to get sex. He does it to please me.

I am not his dirty little secret:

Being kinky is not a dirty little secret. If he is ashamed of his submission to me that means he's ashamed of me. I understand discretion and respect the need for it in certain aspects of his life. But someone that is ashamed of his desire for kink that it is wrong or nasty. I can't play with I have to ask myself what does he think of my desires or needs for his submission?

He understands that I have many faces:
No I am not a split personality but there are many parts of me that create the whole person. I have hobbies and interest inside and outside of being kinky. Because I do something with him he has no right to think I will do it with others. He respects that he is part of my life but he is not my whole life.

His submission should mean something to him:
There are submissives by the score that want the porn of it. They have no care of what it will mean to themselves as individuals. However his should reflect his submission to me not just anybody holding that flogger or paddle.

He understands life intrudes:
Although plans can be made and satisfaction can be scheduled to be met, life will intrude even when one plans to the best of their ability. He should understand that I am as disappointed as he is when things intrude in the times we have set aside and not be whiner.

In closoing being a woman and dominant means that I expect certain behaviours from my submissive. I am also somewhat of a romantic, many of us are and many of us are not. We are all different in our Dominance and have different desires needs and wants from the submissive males we control. As stated earlier this is my opinion.